If you want a loverI have worn the People-Pleasing Mask, maybe the same thing as the Society-Pleasing Mask, for so long that it has become my primary mask. It has also become second nature to try on masks that others wear to see the world from their perspectives. For example: a bit of research and bang I become, temporarily, a hardcore pro-lifer. A bit more research and bang I become a hardcore pro-choicer. So when I hear, say, a pro choice proponent say, "I just can't understand how anyone can be pro life...", I think that is odd because I find it easy to understand and often sympathize with all sides and their nuances.
I'll do anything you ask me to
And if you want another kind of love
I'll wear a mask for you
If you want a partner
Take my hand
Or if you want to strike me down in anger
Here I stand
I'm your man
-- Leonard Cohen
When I began developing ideas for a blog I thought of writing as if I were genderless (and attempt to write as bias-less, more on that later) because I have done just that when playing online multiplayer games where people from all walks of life role-play as characters in online worlds created by programmers. It fascinated me when other players would fixate on determining whether I was biologically male or female in real life -- frequently others would conclude if I played aggressively then I must be male but if I played diplomatically I must be female. And this is in the era where most gamers are familiar with sayings like "The Internet: where men are men, women are women, and little girls are FBI agents."